April 2012
39 posts
freedom fighter.: there's a reason i don't date... →
manifestfreedom:
i know that there are a couple different camps of thinking. there’s the white people all up and through their fee-fees, “BUT ALL WHITE PEOPLE AREN’T LIKE THAT!” camp. and the “BUT IF WE KEEP INTERMIXING, RACISM WILL GO AWAY!” (ie= colorblind/whitewashing) camp. and of course, just by having the…
Listen, my partner is white. And I still completely *completely* understand...
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“I don’t believe in prisons. I don’t like them. I do believe we,...”
– Nikki Giovanni, Quilting the Black-Eyed Pea: Poems and Not Quite Poems
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The pervasiveness of sexism
In a twist of irony, a West Virginia woman is trying to collect money from a collection agency. Diana Mey, of Wheeling, W. Va., won the largest judgment ever against an abusive debt collection company — more than $10 million.
“I’m a mom, and I’m a housewife, and I’m an accidental activist,” Mey said.
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It all started two years ago when a debt...
notime4yourshit reblogged this from you and added:
LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can’t stand you Eb!
*curtsies* lol!
“Your body is… uncomplicated.”
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Gabourey Sidibe Reveals the Terrible Advice She...
notime4yourshit:
girlebony:
On last night’s “Watch What Happens Live,” host Andy Cohen asked Sidibe which celebrity she was most disappointed by when she met them, and she told the story of how she ran into Cusack at a industry party — and Cusack told her she should quit show business because “it’s so image-conscious.”
This is how you help a young fellow actress? By discouraging her from...
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Gabourey Sidibe Reveals the Terrible Advice She...
On last night’s “Watch What Happens Live,” host Andy Cohen asked Sidibe which celebrity she was most disappointed by when she met them, and she told the story of how she ran into Cusack at a industry party — and Cusack told her she should quit show business because “it’s so image-conscious.”
This is how you help a young fellow actress? By discouraging...
“I find it sort of hilarious how even the LEAST attractive men swear that every...”
– Son of Baldwin
I feel like I almost reblog him “too much.” But he’s so on point!
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Pimp Tactics: What They Do
So here’s the second part of my three part series on pimps’ tactics. (See part one here)
Before I get started, it’s helpful for me to present one quick stat.
The average age of entry into sexual exploitation is 11-14, according to the US Dept of Justice. So when I refer to young girls/women, it is informed from this knowledge.
There are many tactics pimps use when approaching a...
Son of Baldwin: A Complete Guide to Hipster Racism →
sonofbaldwin:
http://jezebel.com/5905291/a-complete-guide-to-hipster-racism There’s been a lot of talk these last couple of weeks about “hipster racism” or “ironic racism”—or, as I like to call it, racism. It’s, you know, introducing your black friend as “my black friend”—as a joke!!!—to show…
VIRGINITY IS A SOCIAL CONSTRUCT
Virginity:
is sexist
is heteronormative
commodifies sex
commodifies young cis-het white women
contributes to rape culture
contributes to slut-shaming
erases queer folk
erases transfolk
frames a woman’s worth as inversely proportional to the number of dicks that have been inside her
So much word.
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Ebony Girl
I chose this name “Girl Ebony” because the two usernames I most often use (elbowknee and ebonita) were taken. It’s a take off of “Girl, Melanie” as Malik from The Game calls Melanie. It’s also the embodiment of a lot of me. I have stated before that I ID primarily as a Black woman. Not as Black. Not as a woman, but as a Black woman. I cannot separate the two....
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Pro-abortion
jerrymuffinbutt:
I’ve heard some people say that they’re pro-choice, but they don’t like the term “pro-abortion”. That’s okay, I guess, but I don’t feel that way. I’m very pro-abortion. I genuinely think abortion is great. An abortion that is performed in a safe environment by a professional is almost guaranteed to be a success, with little or no harm to the uterus bearer. An abortion grants...
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Scholarship Opportunities for Gender-Confirming...
harmreduction:
Check out these two scholarship opportunities for transgender people who need financial assistance for gender-confirming surgeries:
CK Life surgery Scholarship Fund application cycle open until May 1st, 2012
Jim Collins Foundation application cycle now open until August 10th 2012.
Trynna boost the signal.
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Sorry, language snobs
Added Bonus: Irregardless of what you think, “conversate” is a word
So a bunch of people noted in yesterday’s Ebonics thread that conversate wasn’t a word, because it wasn’t in the Oxford English Dictionary. Well, I had nothing better to do today, so I decided to call up the OED people and see if I could get an editor to talk to me. Jesse Sheidlower, Editor At...
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Scared of the Dark
sonofbaldwin:
In the event that you were operating under the delusions that: 1. to white people, all black people look alike regardless of skin color;
2. there isn’t an intentional and widespread conspiracy to privilege light-skinned blacks over dark-skinned blacks in an effort to shape our aesthetic preferences through media;
3. even when dark-skinned people are permitted access in media,...
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Flood Bursting Home: Consent →
behfar:
girlebony:
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girlebony:
behfar:
regulard:
thesexuneducated:
girlebony:
I believe I’ve seen a comprehensive description of consent once before. Figured I’d contribute as it’s a subject that bears repeating.
Consent is:
Non-coercive: If you’re cojoling, threatening or otherwise trying to “convince” someone…
Just to play (asshole) devil’s advocate, I heard...
Flood Bursting Home: Consent →
behfar:
girlebony:
behfar:
regulard:
thesexuneducated:
girlebony:
I believe I’ve seen a comprehensive description of consent once before. Figured I’d contribute as it’s a subject that bears repeating.
Consent is:
Non-coercive: If you’re cojoling, threatening or otherwise trying to “convince” someone…
Just to play (asshole) devil’s advocate, I heard somewhere that findings are...
Flood Bursting Home: Consent →
behfar:
regulard:
thesexuneducated:
girlebony:
I believe I’ve seen a comprehensive description of consent once before. Figured I’d contribute as it’s a subject that bears repeating.
Consent is:
Non-coercive: If you’re cojoling, threatening or otherwise trying to “convince” someone…
Just to play (asshole) devil’s advocate, I heard somewhere that findings are starting to emerge that...
When a rich woman wants to stay home with her... →
stfuconfederates:
More reasons to hate Mitt Romney.
white person: Racism is bad.
white people: omg you are a national treasure let us bake you some cookies and name a study hall after you.
Person of Color: Racism is bad.
white people: I mean if you don't like it don't you have a homeland to go back to or something...
“Tragically, the well-off and the poor are often united in capitalist culture by...”
– bell hooks (via wretchedoftheearth)
See this is why I love bell hooks. I don’t know how many times I’ve gotten into a conversation about how low SES folks are living beyond their means. As if that is something exclusive to poor folks. As if we expect poorer folks to somehow magically...
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friendlyangryfeminist:
Abusers are really good at is making you feel like your anger is worse than their abuse.
Anonymous asked: this has plagued me for a while. i dont drink so it doesnt apply to me but i wonder. if you are drunk and you have sex with another drunk person, did you rape them? did they rape you? did you both rape each other? did neither rape the other? the person who initiated it? what if you were both drunk enough you dont recall who initiated it?
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Re: Consent
tooyoungforthelivingdead:
girlebony:
So people actually challenged me on drunkenconsent, accused me of being ableist for using the term “crazy times”, questioned why I didn’t add a note about nonverbal consent being “just as viable” as verbal consent (which makes NO sense given the purpose of the post) and a few other nitpicky things that were irrelevant at best erroneous and silly at worst.
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Welfare reform doesn't prove you can cut without...
wonklife:
Quite the opposite, actually:
More here.
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Consent
I believe I’ve seen a comprehensive description of consent once before. Figured I’d contribute as it’s a subject that bears repeating.
Consent is:
Non-coercive: If you’re cojoling, threatening or otherwise trying to “convince” someone to engage in a sexual act with you, you are breaking consent. If you asked 16 times and got 15 No’s and 1 Yes, you still...
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Anything titled "the end of my white guilt" is...
http://dailycaller.com/2012/04/09/the-end-of-my-white-guilt/
LOL Cliff’s Notes version:
“I’m a good, white, Christian, upstanding citizen and I have no evidence whatsoever, but I conclude that a darkie stole my bike! And he was beating my hood! So I shall be ending my white guilt here! And I will watch In The Heat of The Night no more!!!!”
Good riddance
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Re: Consent
So people actually challenged me on drunken consent, accused me of being ableist for using the term “crazy times”, questioned why I didn’t add a note about nonverbal consent being “just as viable” as verbal consent (which makes NO sense given the purpose of the post) and a few other nitpicky things that were irrelevant at best erroneous and silly at worst.
I’m...
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Apropos of nothing, fuck Tucker Max.
“You don’t have a revolution in which you love your enemy, and you don’t have a...”
– Malcolm X.
“My nation wants to murder me. But short of that, it will settle for my utter...”
– Son of Baldwin
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Learning while Black
That awkward moment feeling life when you realize the omnipresent, permeating effect of racism on your life.
When doing poorly in school makes you feel angry at a system that doesn’t recognize all of the hurdles and obstacles you overcame just to even be in a position to get a C or a D. When you wish you could implore a professor to include a weighted average into his/her rubric to address...
